DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m a person with curly hair. A yr in the past, I made a decision to develop it out. At this time I went in for a haircut.
I informed the barber that I used to be rising it “classical musician” lengthy, however that I wanted the underside of the again trimmed up. I anticipated it may use somewhat little bit of shaping up throughout, as properly.
When he was completed and turned me round in order that I may see it, my hair was quick. As in, the again was a quarter-inch lengthy. I used to be shocked.
With out remark, I paid him (together with the tip).
I’m past pissed off. Is there something I may have mentioned or accomplished?
GENTLE READER: After the deed was accomplished, no. However subsequent time — at a special barber’s — you may want to pay extra consideration whereas the operation is in progress.
Miss Manners suspects another distraction was at play — a telephone, maybe, or the classical music on the salon audio system. The dearth of direct entry to a mirror doesn’t, by itself, clarify why one wouldn’t discover all that hair cascading onto the ground.
She doesn’t imply to be unsympathetic, however not every part in life has an undo button.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I work for a midsized firm that has a centralized administrative workplace, along with places the place we do discipline work.
I’m a part of the administration, and work completely from my workplace.
The unwritten coverage is that we go away our workplace doorways open, though we’re allowed to shut them for brief durations if we’re on the telephone or have to work uninterrupted.
There’s a convention room instantly beside my workplace that’s utilized a number of instances every day. Earlier than and after these conferences, folks will congregate within the hallway in entrance of my workplace door to speak. Often somebody will even lean on my doorjamb with their bottom in my workplace.
The conversations are loud sufficient to be disruptive, even when I’m carrying headphones, and they’re additionally blocking my exit path if I had been to depart for any cause. Generally these conversations will final in extra of 10 or quarter-hour.
I can not ask the assembly individuals to go someplace else, as a result of they’re venture managers, division VPs, shoppers and the HR division with potential workers.
Wouldn’t it be impolite of me to stand up and gently shut my door whereas they’re standing there conversing? Or is it higher to only grin and bear it?
GENTLE READER: To reply your query, it’s price inspecting why you can’t simply (politely) ask these folks to collect farther away. It shouldn’t be as a result of they outrank you, however slightly as a result of what they’re doing is (or is presumed to be) in furtherance of firm enterprise.
For a similar cause, not solely are you able to gently shut your door in order to be extra productive, however Miss Manners would suppose much less of any boss who thought much less of you for doing so.
Please ship your inquiries to Miss Manners at her web site, www.missmanners.com; to her e mail, gentlereader@missmanners.com; or by postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.
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